Introduction to the New Movement
The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind
with Jonah Berger
Jonah Berger, author of The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind, discusses what we need to know to understand the psychology of change, and how we can be greater catalysts for change.
Everyone desires to be a catalyst for change, and the process of change begins the same for everyone. Jonah states, “You have something you want to change, and you become the hero in your journey. The villain is the status quo bias.” The status quo bias is the idea or belief that people hold on to because it is what they have always known, and it is where they feel safe and comfortable. To change the status quo bias, one must understand the psychology of change, and truly understand the barriers to change.
Real catalysts for change will think of the obstacles and roadblocks to the change they desire. Jonah states,
“Reactance, Endowment, Distance, Uncertainty, Corroborating, and Evidence, are five key roadblocks to change, and catalysts for change will REDUCE these roadblocks.”
Reactance is when someone pushes their belief or idea on someone else, and that person naturally pushes back. When people feel pushed, they will feel a loss of control which will further dig them into their status quo bias. Instead of trying to assert this control and persuade others by pushing, a catalyst for change needs to let the other person persuade themselves, and give them control over their decision.
Jonah discusses three main ways to give that people can avoid the reactance roadblock. First, provide a menu of options. Allowing someone to choose where to start encourages a sense of control and give them an option, which encourages a self guided choice and more focus on their part. Second, ask, don’t tell. Asking questions encourages a dialogue and allows for more understanding on a given issue or topic. Lastly, highlight a gap. If someone can highlight a gap between what someone thinks and how they act, then they can encourage, or guide, the individual to be more consistent. When people are more consistent, and aligned with their attitudes and actions, they feel more functional.
Jonah states, “sometimes we are so focused on the change that we don’t understand the audience.” The more we understand the audience, the more we can recognize and overcome the roadblocks to change for that person or group of people.
Learning What Our Target Market Is Saying
with Janine Marrone
Janine Marrone, founder of Support After Abortion, discusses the consumer research conducted by Support After Abortion, and what the future holds for abortion recovery.
Support After Abortion has the vision and mission to restore the world from the impact of abortion. To end the demand for abortion, SAA, works to bring healing and support resources to all men and women who have been impacted.
In order to bring this healing to the millions of people impacted, consumer research needs to be done to understand the clients they are trying to serve. Two studies were done in 2019 and 2020. During these studies 3,000 women were contacted for interviews, and asked questions regarding the impact of abortion or reproductive loss.
Some of the most compelling information came from the question, “Where would you go for help after an abortion?” Ninety percent of women answered that they did not know where to go for abortion recovery. Five percent reported thinking Planned Parenthood would provide some sort of support and one percent reported that they would try to go to their church for healing resources. Additionally, eighty percent of women reported rarely, if ever, attending religious services and eighty-three percent expressed the desire to remain anonymous while receiving healing. This research inspired Support After Abortion to launch the options-based healing approach. Women did not want to come to a group at a pregnancy center, in the middle of the afternoon, they wanted and needed options. Support After Abortion began building programs that included virtual groups offered at various times throughout the day and week that are faith and non-faith based.
The consumer research also debunked the very big myth that abortion does not hurt or negatively impact the women involved. This research showed that women reported feelings of regret, guilt, depression, anxiety, shame, paranoia, and so much more after their abortion. Women are not only hurt by abortion, but without healing after, the pain continues to grow each day.
With all of this information and more research being done, Support After Abortion continues to grow and expand its resources. Janine states that to reach key markets, Support After Abortion will begin to utilize YouTube to reach more individuals and educate them on the need and importance of abortion healing.
SAA has a created a Healing Partner Network so that there is continuous collaboration among the leaders of abortion recovery ministries. Support After Abortion has also developed a Men’s Task Force to ensure help reaches men impacted by abortion as well.
With compassion, collaboration and building capacity Support After Abortion will continue to conduct more research, and increase programming so that abortion healing is made available to all men and women impacted by abortion. Click here to download Janine’s presentation.
The New Moral Outcry to End Abortion
and the Legal History of Abortion
with Allan E. Parker, Jr.
President of the Justice Foundation, Allan Parker reviews the changes that have occurred since abortion became legal through Roe v Wade, almost 50 years ago.
Allan states, “There are five reasons why Roe v Wade should be reversed, and six judges with an open mind to reverse that decision. Now it is up to states and us to motivate and drive this reversal.”
The five legal reasons Roe v Wade should be reversed are: (1) abortion is a crime against humanity, (2) women can have the freedom of Roe without the human costs, (3) abortion hurts women, (4) 1-2 million people want to adopt newborn babies, and (5) new science.
So what can we do? One way to get involved is to sign the Moral Outcry Petition. When you sign this petition you sign your name to an important piece of legislation that will voice your desire for a reversal of Roe v Wade.
Allan also encourages everyone to listen to the testimonies of the women impacted by abortion. With compassion and not condemnation, research ways you can get involved in the Abortion Healing Recovery Process and Movement. He highlights Support After Abortion, as doing exceptional research to show the pain abortion causes women and how it is imperative we listen and help all men and women impacted by abortion.
When asked if he foresees an end to abortion, Allan states a confident, “YES!” He continues to say, “No one every thought Communism would fall, and it did!”
The Evolution of Helping Women After Abortion
with Georgette Forney
President of Anglicans For Life, co-founder of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign and facilitator of the Abortion Recovery Coalition, Georgette Forney discusses her journey through abortion healing, why abortion healing is important, where to go for healing and how to help others heal.
After her abortion, Georgette, built her walls of denial. She became tough, and determined that no one will know her secret. It was not until she started to acknowledge her loss, that her healing began. She began her career at Anglicans For Life, and broke her silence. She allowed thousands to hear her testimony of grief and regret. It was during this time, she realized just how many men and women were impacted by abortion and just how few resources were available that offered hope and healing.
The first step to helping those impacted by abortion heal, is understanding them. “Those impacted by abortion are still misunderstood. From ProLifers we hear we are heartless, careless murderers. Proaborters dismiss our pain.” Both misperceptions and judgments reaffirm the need to be quiet. To understand men and women impacted by abortion you have to listen, and how people speak back to them marks that person as safe to talk to, or someone to avoid.
Next, people need to know what resources are available to help those impacted by abortion heal. Currently there are 32 groups under the Abortion Recovery Coalition. These groups include, but are not limited too, specific men and women recovery resources, 24 hour hotlines to call for help, and a place to read testimonies of those who have suffered from abortion.
To learn more about these groups, and the extensive history of Abortion Recovery Healing click here to download the PDF on Georgette’s presentation to find your own healing, or help those impacted by abortion start their healing.
The History of Planned Parenthood and Black Genocide
with Catherine Davis
President and founder of Restoration Project, Catherine Davis discusses the history of Planned Parenthood.
First Catherine feels it is important to fully understand the definition of genocide. Genocide can be defined as whoever, whether in time of peace or in time of war and with specific intent to destroy, in whole or in substantial part, a national, ethnic, racial or religious group. Next, she establishes the connection between the founder of Planned Parenthood, Margaret Sanger and genocide. Margaret Sanger, has a documented history of relationships/partnerships with the KKK, and Adolf Hitler. Together they set up eugenics programs throughout the world, and it is these eugenics programs Planned Parenthood has, and has continued to cover up throughout the years.
During the recent racial unrest in the United States, employees of Planned Parenthood came forward and admitted that Margaret Sanger was a racist, and that Planned Parenthood has historically hurt women of color. Planned Parenthood continues to be systemically corrupt and racially motivated.
Catherine works hard so that people understand that Planned Parenthood should not be allowed to target the black community,
and should be held accountable for a violation of the Civil Rights Law of 1964. She states, “We have a lot of work to do to end this crime against humanity…..pray we begin to talk more about the topics today!”
For more information on the history of Planned Parenthood and how they have contributed to black genocide, download Catherine’s presentation. Click here to access her presentation.
Building a Case for Change
with Lisa Rowe, LCSW
Lisa Rowe, CEO of Support After Abortion, states “in order to be a catalyst of change, within the ProLife Movement, we need to inspire compassion, promote collaboration, and build capacity.”
Support After Abortion believes to end the demand for abortion there must be a shift from condemnation of those impacted by abortion to helping them heal.
One in four women will have an abortion before the age of 45, and 50% percent of those women will have repeat abortions. If the ProLife Movement can begin to inspire compassion, those impacted by abortion can heal and possibly not make the decision of abortion multiple times. Instead of telling women they are murderers, and condemning them to pain, people need to establish common ground, understanding and let those impacted by abortion know they deserve better, they deserve healing.
Ninety percent of people do not know where to go for help, even though we have been fighting abortion for almost fifty years. This does not mean, they do not want help, it means the ProLife movement has to begin meeting people where they are with compassion, so that those impacted by abortion feel safe coming forward to start their abortion healing process.
For Lisa’s complete presentation and more information on how to inspire compassion, please click here.
Chemical Abortion in 2021
with Christa Brown
The United States made chemical abortions available in 2000. Christa takes us a through a 21 year history of chemical abortions, what they look like, feel like and what the future holds.
Chemical abortions can also be referred to as RU-486, the abortion pill, and non-surgical abortions. In a fast-paced world, that often desires instant gratification, chemical abortion have grown in popularity because they are marketed as convenient, private and abortion on demand. To a woman, or couple, in crisis this option is appealing to immediately solve the problem of an unplanned pregnancy.
However, what women and men are told is very different from what the actual experience will be. Chemical abortions are supposed to be done in the earliest stages of pregnancy, up to 11 weeks, however many abortion clinics and industries will prescribe this well past 11 weeks and into 13 weeks. Women take a combination of Mifepristone (which blocks progesterone), and Misoprostol (which causes the uterus to empty out.)
During a chemical abortion women will experience cramping, vaginal bleeding, nausea, weakness, vomiting, headaches, and the risk of infection. Women are promised it will resemble a period, however it is far worse. Additionally, the woman is alone without medical supervision, and often without even a parent or friend, and therefore goes through this experience scared, sick and alone. Additionally, some women (not all), will see their child after a chemical abortion. This leads to confusion and feelings of betrayal. They are not told this could happen, and are left to either flush or bury their baby.
In the midst of all of this shocking, scary information Christa mentions, that in the future, “there is hope.” The Abortion Pill Reversal (APR) empowers women with choices, and makes it possible to choose again.
The History of the Church and the Pregnancy Center
with Jor-El Godsey
President of Heartbeat International, Jor-El Godsey, discusses the legalization of abortion and the rise of Pregnancy Health Centers beginning in the 1960s.
The 1960s brought the sexual revolution to the United States. In 1967, Colorado became the first state to legalize abortion, and in 1968, Toronto, Canada established the first pregnancy center which became the model for all pregnancy center service locations.
As everyone is aware, in 1973, abortion became a “constituitional right” with the Roe v Wade ruling. After Roe v Wade the ProLife Movement broke into three segments of specialization. First, public awareness, which publicized the truth of abortion. The second specialization was political, which is legislative and legal advocacy. Last, was direct service which involved helping women at risk for an abortion.
Perhaps the biggest decade for Pregnancy Health Centers, and abortion recovery research were the 1980s. Yes, the abortion industrialized, but Pregnancy Health Centers expanded exponentially, and in 1986, research began for abortion recovery and outreach.
In the 1990’s the number of annual abortions did peak, however in the United States, the number of Pregnancy Health Centers started to exceed abortion clinics. For every one abortion clinic, there are four pregnancy centers.
Jor-El encourages everyone to not stop here. The ProLife Movement needs to continue to adapt their outreach, messaging and nimbleness to remain effective and end the demand for abortion.
Past 15 Years of Abortion and Mental Health Resources
with Robin Atkins
Robin Atkins, LMHC begins her presentation by discussing the APA’s stance on abortion. She states the APA should have been concerned with the psychological effects around abortion, however they gave into more of the ideology of abortion with statements such as, “abortion is necessary for poor women,” and also declaring adolescents have a “constitutional right to make decisions regarding their reproductive health.”
David Fergusson was the first one to step in and begin to refute the APA statements surrounding abortion and the impact surrounding that abortion. His research leans towards informing women of potential mental health outcomes when it comes to abortion, and states “there is evidence pointing in the direction of harmful effects.”
Shortly after, Coleman, provided a direct link between abortion and suicide. Her study shows there is 155% increase in suicidal behaviors among women impacted by abortion. This research was disputed by the abortion industry but was quickly defended by Fergusson.
There are several more studies that speak to the correlation between abortion and suicide:
- In 1995 – a study was done on women without any pre-existing psychological illness and 70 % of those women had an increase of risk of deliberate self harm after an abortion when compared to women who birth.
- In 1996 – a Finnish study was done that reported 34.7% of 100,000 women committed suicide after abortions (most within the first 2 months)
- In 2006 – Fergusson did another study that showed that there is a 4x greater risk for suicide after abortion when compared to never being pregnant. Additionally, there is a 3x greater risk for suicide after abortion when to women whom deliver,
- In 2010 – Another study showed a 59% increased risk in suicidal ideation, 5.8% of this number is directly attributed to abortion.
Leading with Love
with Dr. Karysse Trandem
Dr. Trandem lists the four risks of abortion: (1) Breast Cancer – there is a 40% increased risk of getting breast cancer in the future for those who have had an abortion, (2) uterine damage – heavy bleeding, hemorrhaging and permanent scarring can occur, (3) cervix damage – there is a 36% increased risk of pre-term birth in future pregnancies, and (4) mental health challenges – over 81% percent of women who have had an abortion may develop a lifetime chronic mental health disorder (depression, anxiety , panic disorder, etc.).
In her presentation, Dr. Trandem discusses what we need to combat the fourth risk of mental health challenges. How do we help those experiencing mental health challenges after an abortion?
Dr. Trandem states, “we need to fight with weapons of hope, faith, prayer and love.” By compassionately speaking to and showing love to those impacted by abortion, we can help them restore a sense of worthiness in themselves. People cannot expect those faced with an abortion decision to value human life when they do not value themselves. Those who are impacted from abortion, often carry wounds of trauma and feel unworthy. To end the demand for abortion, people need to be compassionate with their words, and be felt as a safe person to approach.
Dr. Trandem urges everyone to remember that those impacted by abortion, abortion providers, and pro-abortion supporters are hurt and if they could see they too are loved and valued, then everyone could engage on a different level and begin to establish common ground.
The Abortion Decision and the Healing Process:
Through a Trauma Lens
with Greg Hasek
Greg Hasek discusses the impact early trauma has on a future abortion decision. He states,
“many women and men have experienced previous trauma as a child and that trauma has a direct impact on their ability to make a rational decision upon finding out they are or their partner is pregnant. Their response is often a limbic system response rooted in and often triggering past fears and attachment belief systems that are often unconscious. Rational prefrontal cortex kicks back in post abortion. As a result, feelings of regret hit. The relief stage is ever so brief for the limbic angst. Both men and women often ask, ‘How could I have done this?’’
There are two ways to intervene both in the present moment and in the future so that this response and trauma does not become generational. First, when someone has found out they are pregnant, their brain goes through a flight or fight response. The unplanned pregnancy is seen as a problem that needs to be solved. In this moment, people need to encourage the man or woman to breathe deeply to steady their heart rate.
Walking, listening to music or meditating are great ways to relax the body, which will relax the mind. Once the man or woman has had time to calm down, they can then make a rational decision.
Greg states that most trauma people experience in the first two years of their life. To make sure the pattern or trauma does not repeat itself through future generations, the ProLife movement can invest more in parenting programs and support those who are new parents. By investing in these programs, we are healing the parents and again stop the generational trauma that can occur.
Creating a Safe Place to Heal
with Michaelene Frendenburg
Research shows that those impacted by abortion feel fear, quilt and shame. It is this fear, guilt and shame that prohibits men and women from coming forward for healing, and causes them to continue to silently suffer.
Michaelene discusses three things to always remember when interacting with those impacted by abortion so that more men and woman come forward for abortion healing. First, always keep in mind the number of people impacted by abortion. One in four women will have an abortion by the time she is 45. The impact of abortion is not limited to the woman but extends to the man, siblings, grandparents, friends, etc. This means that at any moment you could be speaking with someone impacted by abortion, so keeping this number in mind, will help keep your communication safe and approachable. Second, Michaelene urges everyone to “be humble, be present, without expectations and meet them where they are.”
Every person is unique and uniquely impacted. Grief, timeline process, suffering and coping are all unique to the individual, so being present with them will ensure the focus remains on them. Lastly, “magic words” do not exist. There is not a set of guidelines, or a phrase that is 100 percent effective. Rather than trying to find the perfect statement, listening and being present is extremely important to remember.
Michaelene also discusses communication tips that will help inspire compassion and help others feel comfortable coming forward for healing.
Some of her tips include, but are not limited too, being mindful of body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, accepting that we cannot force healing and accepting that there will be times we make mistakes.
The Future of Abortion
with Addia Wuchner
Director of the Kentucky Right to Life, Addia Wuchner, discusses two key factors that will help change legislation and end the demand for abortion.
The first Addia discusses the Law of Informed Consent. Addia notes that healthcare was originally designed as to create and nourish a trusting relationship between patient and provider. Informed Consent would make it necessary and mandatory for all providers to review all risks and effects, both physical and mental, that come with making an abortion decision. Informed Consent would paint a realistic picture for men and women, and help them make a rational decision based on years of proven research. Addia states, “it is disrespectful and unethical to not give men and women informed consent on the entire decision if abortion.” Informed consent has been met with opposition from providers who think it is disrespectful to go over that information with men and women, because as the provider states, “she already knows what she is doing.”
According to Addia, there is a way to mitigate this barrier. In conjunction with the Law of Informed Consent, Addia encourages men and women who have been impacted by abortion to come forward and share their testimony. There is righteousness and judgment with lawmakers when making laws. They come with bias and religious background, and the words can become painful. Addia encourages men and women to come forward when they are ready, to help us change the dialogue and language to be more compassion driven.
As Addia states, “when we change the dialogue or language, and lead with compassion, we will change a culture.”
Compassion on the Sidewalk
with Lauren Muzyka
President and CEO of Sidewalk Advocates, Lauren Muzyka, presents information on the history of Sidewalk Advocates, and how they train individuals to be compassionate members of this ministry.
The vision of of this organization is that peaceful, prayerful, loving, and law-abiding sidewalk outreach be present outside every abortion facility in the U.S. and beyond, redirecting all to life-affirming alternatives, thereby ending abortion. Some of their values include love, peace, servant-leadership and excellence.
With two hundred locations worldwide, Lauren describes Sidewalk Advocates as one imperfect soul reaching out to another imperfect soul. As a peaceful, prayerful, loving and law-abiding program, Sidewalk Advocates has resulted in seventy-two abortion workers leaving the industry, the closing of twenty-five abortion facilities, and nearly 13,000 mothers served and babies saved.
The key to success can be summed up in one word….love. Lauren states, “if we don’t have love we will not get anywhere. It is more important to be effective than it is to be right, and we cannot be trusted with these stories if we lead from judgment.” Sidewalk Advocates was designed to be a sign of hope. It is important to remember the trauma, and be gentle. It is important to invite people in, not overwhelm them. A calm offering of prayers and resources, while using loving language, such as, “we know it’s been a rough day, we love you!” is stressed during training and throughout an advocate’s sidewalk experience.
Abortion Pill Reversal
with Christa Brown
Sometimes the regret of abortion happens quickly. For those who have a chemical abortion, the regret can start as soon as they take the first pill of Mifipristone. Many times women are not 100% percent certain they want an abortion, and start to try to find a way to rescue their baby. This starts the Abortion Pill Reversal process.
The reversal process is safe and begins with emergency, on-going doses of progesterone. Progesterone has been used safely for years to avoid miscarriage or pre-term birth. As mentioned, this is started as soon as a woman calls the Abortion Pill Rescue Hotline. She is also linked with a local pregnancy center to receive the support needed for during and after her pregnancy.
The Abortion Pill Reversal Network is made up of physicians, medical organizations, and a medical advisory board that report the following statistics:
- Abortion Pill Reversal is 64%-68% effective
- At least 2,000 lives have been saved with APR, and
- There is no increased risk of birth defects with APR after Mifipristone is taken.
The media will communicate that the reversal is unlikely, and that women do not change their minds after starting an abortion. However, the above statistics speak to the truth.
“Denying women the truth is denying them real choice.”
Pro-Love and Get Involved
with Amy Ford
Amy Ford is the president of Embrace Grace, Inc., a non-profit organization formed for the purpose of providing curriculum and leadership support for churches so that they may support women and men with unplanned pregnancies.
Amy states, “If abortion became illegal today, the church would not be ready to help women with unplanned pregnancies practically, spiritually, and emotionally.”
In her book, “Help Her Be Brave: Discover Your Place in the Pro-Life Movement,” Amy discusses the various organizations that exist and ways you too can help support, or become involved with these organizations.
For those who are passionate about helping those facing an abortion decision, or impacted by abortion, Amy recommends organizations such as Support After Abortion, 40 Days for Life, Sidewalk Advocates for Life, Abortion Pill Rescue and more. Along with these great organizations she also suggests passing notes or words of encouragement to single mothers, handing out information to local pregnancy centers, or making it known on your social media outlets that you are a safe person to talk to and link women with the resources they need.
For those who want to work with pregnancy centers, Amy suggests organizations such as Focus on the Family, Care Net, and Heartbeat International. Again, outside of working directly with these organizations you can organize diaper drives and donate all of the items to local pregnancy centers, send monthly monetary donations to a local pregnancy center, or cards of encouragement and gratitude to those that work at a pregnancy center.
Men and Abortion
with Nathan Misirian
Nathan Misirian, COO of Support After Abortion, dicusses the need to increase resources made available to men that are impacted by abortion. Together with Adam Fransden and Greg Hasek, they discuss why men are afraid, and what specific needs men have to heal and begin their abortion recovery process.
Today’s man is told abortion should not impact them, because of this men often will become silent when faced with an unplanned pregnancy or they will put the decision solely on the woman, because they are afraid to offer support. Adam Fransden, member of the Men’s Task Force at Support After Abortion, states “it is not toxic masculnity to stand up and say I want to be a father.” It is just as important that resources for men are provided so they are given this voice, support, guidance and healing they need. A man’s first instinct is to protect his child, when an abortion occurs, it damages this instinct and therefore leaves a deep wound on the man.
To help heal this wound, Support After Abortion has begun to mobilize so that everyone who needs abortion recovery healing will have access to it. As stated above, Support After Abortion, has created a Men’s Task Force, and has already and will be continuing to conduct consumer research to understand exactly how many men are impacted, and what specific healing programs will work for them. Research has already shown that men do not grieve the same as women, they don’t like to sit in circles, face to face with one another. With more consumer research men will be better served and have more access to healing that will be geared towards what they need.
Increasing collaboration will be crucial for building the capacity needed to effectively serve men impacted by abortion. Through the Support After Abortion, Network Partner meetings we can learn from other leaders and organizations, and work together to increase resources for men. Additionally, it is important to remember that just as people meet women where they are, it is important to start healing men by meeting them where they are as well. Creating a safe space, so they can unravel their roots, heal and become the father’s they were meant to be.
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